Wisdom of GLBT Identity by Ray S

     There is something intoxicating and dangerous about the forbidden. That has always been my pervading attitude while spending a lifetime in the confines of my padded cell closet of denial. That is until the closet door would squeak open just enough to allow a taste of the forbidden fruit (no pun intended) of gay indulgence.

     As far as wisdom and identity go I am reminded of a recent opportunity I had to hear a presentation by noted author and gay sex counselor Dan Savage in response to a note card from the audience which stated quite candidly, “I don’t want to be gay.” There was a vocal gasp from those in the entire auditorium. It was truly amazing, but with great aplomb Savage proceeded to elaborate on how it is a long process to accept the gay identity, especially when a person young or older is struggling with the social and sexual conflicts of homosexuality in American society.

     Here is the knowledge; that is, knowledge offered. First study and read and talk about the subject. Then, learn that it is not a learned trait, but a natural phenomenon within the development of the fetus. If one can get this far he will slowly begin to accept the reality. As he said about a number of sexual processes--”take it slowly.”


     After this step of learning and wisdom comes experience, understanding who you are, and being comfortable with being “different” especially when you learn you are not alone. This process can be very lengthy and some of us have difficulty slamming that closet door shut.

     In our growing up years there is a natural emphasis on our developing sexuality--in both the straight and gay worlds. With experience most of us discover that there are great rewards in the knowledge that homosexual relationships are much more than physical lust and needs.

     The wonder and beauty of our deep and abiding love for our chosen special person is universal in both worlds. This reads very idealistic and not always easily attainable, but certainly a rewarding goal to be strived for.

     This to me is the wonderful revelation of LGBT identity.