Thursday, August 20, 2015

My Earliest LGBT Memory, by Will Stanton


Five years old (or should I say, “Five years young?) is very early for such a clear memory.  The experience must have had quite an impact upon me to remember it so well.   The visual aspect was powerful enough not to forget, but the excited feeling in my stomach is what really affected me.

I was five, he was six.  He lived just two houses over from my home.  To my regret, he and his family did not stay there very long.  I have no idea where he went after they moved.

I recall one spring evening when I tagged along with my older brother to my neighbors' home.  We didn't actually play.  There were five of us there, and we simply sat on the grass and chatted about whatever children of that age talk about.  That I don't remember, for it is what I saw that captured and held my attention.

A traditional belief is that children that age are not sexual, whatever is meant by that term “sexual.”  Sexual or not, I do know that, from a very early age, I have had an unusually heightened sense of the aesthetic.  And, at the age of five, that came into play, big-time.

The first thing that struck me (and, the word “struck” certainly denotes the impact that I felt) was the extraordinary beauty of his face.  The aristocratic, finely sculpted features - - high cheek-bones, arched eyebrows, narrow, straight nose, ideal line of the jaw and chin, and perfectly shaped lips worthy of a Cupid.  I was mesmerized.  As often appears to be the case with the young, his warm-colored skin was flawless, and his richly colored locks had avoided the shears and were allowed to flow downward toward his eyes.  Those shining clear eyes had a demure expression, not the more intense, self-confident look of the other boys around him.  The others around him?  I barely remember them, almost as though they already sat in the shadows of approaching dusk.

As the others talked among themselves, he sat quietly, his long, lithe limbs side-saddle in the grass.  I was not used to seeing boys sit that way.  He seemed preoccupied with his own thoughts.  Only occasionally did he speak, and then in very soft tones.  Those few moments of speech were music to my ears.

The full impact of this vision raised strange and powerful emotions within me.  I felt “butterflies” in my stomach, an adrenaline rush that was a whole new experience for me.  It is that shivering excitement that I felt which amazed me at the time and was so indelibly imprinted upon my memory.

That remarkable moment awakened in me a powerful passion for beauty in the human form that has stayed with me my whole life.  It has inspired in me the desire to express that passion through many forms of artistic endeavor - - music, art, and writing, as I am doing now.  It often has dominated my feelings, perhaps even plagued my thinking.  I often feel like Gustav von Aschenbach in “Death in Venice,” overwhelmed by bitter-sweet sensations each time I encounter beauty in human form.

Now that I am decades older than that first experience at age five, even a generation older than von Aschenbach, I sense no evidence that I shall change.  Like Gustav, I shall be mesmerized by beauty to the very end of my days.

© 14 July 2015 

About the Author 



 I have had a life-long fascination with people and their life stories.  I also realize that, although my own life has not brought me particular fame or fortune, I too have had some noteworthy experiences and, at times, unusual ones.  Since I joined this Story Time group, I have derived pleasure and satisfaction participating in the group.  I do put some thought and effort into my stories, and I hope that you find them interesting.

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