Friday, April 14, 2017

Birthdays, by Ray S


Forgive me because I have used this opening before. Atlanta is burning, panic prevails, and to add to this mix Scarlett O’Hara and her Black slave are driving the wagon hell-bent for election to somewhere that she can deliver her baby girl. And this is the punch line hysterically delivered by Butterfly McQueen: “I don’t know nuthin’ ‘bout birthin’ no baby, Miss Scarlett!” Where was Rhett when he was needed?

The one important thing all of us everywhere have in common is our very first birthday. After that first spanking life’s up for grabs.

Some of us have been blessed with so many birthday parties that we can’t distinguish one from another. Sure, if you really think hard, there were special times in a specific year, but if you have survived eighty or so, you can’t remember. Then there is always dementia waiting to creep into one of your parties. Good luck.

On a joyful note: on the occasion of my 91st birthday I was reminded by the receipt of so many congratulatory greetings that my world still loved me and wished me well in hanging on ‘til number 92 crept up. The week featured a lunch or dinner to the point that I was relieved when I had one free night at home.

Be reminded: “Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.” Birthdays—at least mine—give so much love and to give back so very much love.

Sometimes certain birthdays provoke regrets. A love life gone away, a death in your immediate or extended family, or you wonder why you had to wait so very long to discover who you really are and what to do with this newfound knowledge. The latter can become a really happy birthday gift. This is the ever-present specter, ageing, and its complications. Sometimes it seems to be really difficult to reach that ‘happy ending.’

Meantime there is one thing we could do upon meeting another birthday—yours or mine. Reach out and embrace each other. It is the best present we can give each other. Time’s a wasting!

© 14 November 2016



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