Friday, December 12, 2014

The Gayest Person I Have Ever Known by Will Stanton


I know the world is full of gay people (using the currently popular definition of the term), and they dress and behave in many different ways.  If, however, the person who chose this topic was thinking of the stereotypical gay guy with distinctive apparel or mannerisms who often draws attention to himself, I really have not hung around very many gays like that.  If I use that frame of reference, however, then I would have to think of young Peter whom I met in college.

Peter did, in fact, draw attention to himself; but he seemed to be able to do it in a way that fascinated people, never repelled them.  I suppose that he had the advantage of being remarkably good looking, as well as intelligent and charismatic.  I  observed  people's body-language that supported this fact.  Sometimes, I'd see straight guys encounter a gay guy and then immediately draw away in distaste; whereas, with Peter, they involuntarily would lean forward, eyes wide-open, fascinated.  Other gays on campus did not fare so well as he did.  I know of at least one gay who was beaten up, but even the homophobes just stared at Peter, and that is no exaggeration.  Straight guys seemed to be far too taken with Peter to ever consider being unkind to him.

Peter's heritage was an unlikely pairing of Polish and Sicilian ancestry.  He had the fine, classic facial features of a Polish aristocrat, and I could imagine that his mother resembled Tadzio's mother in the film “Death in Venice.”   He also flaunted a mane of golden locks, much like Tadzio's.  His skin was a smooth, honey-tan.  Apparently, the only obvious inheritance from his Sicilian father was the ability to tan without burning.


Peter obviously was very aware of his good looks and their effect upon people.  He enjoyed being noticed.  He did confide in me, however, one concern about his physical self.  His body appeared to be rather soft and smooth, even slightly androgynous; and he wondered if he innately was less masculine than most college-age guys.

Peter chose clothes that straight guys would be embarrassed to wear.  Between Peter's physical appearance, his cute clothes, and his confident way of talking and walking, he never failed to draw attention.

Peter had a large group of gay friends, plus an endless string of guys persistently trying to get Peter into bed, and a series of trailing hangers-on that people unkindly referred to as “fag-hags.”  It was nothing to see Peter cheerfully making his way somewhere, trailed by several enamored acquaintances, much like moths to a flame.

Peter was an unabashed flirt. He knew when people were staring at him.  If he was in a teasing mood, he could embarrass his admirers by sensuously displaying himself. He might smile at them and not leave until the observers turned red with embarrassment. 
 
From what Peter told me, I think that he enjoyed flirting with straight guys.  He once answered an ad to share expenses with two straight guys in a van going to Florida for spring break. When they drove up to Peter's house, he appeared wearing tiny, baby-blue shorts and a little pink sweater.  And, when he came flouncing down the front steps to the van, his gay house-mate called out, “Have a good time, and don’t get any nice boys into trouble!”  The two guys' jaws dropped.  Apparently, the straight guys overcame their initial surprise, for by the time they pulled over into a rest stop for the night, Peter ended up being, as he later described it, “the meat in the sandwich.”  Once Peter arrived in Florida, he donned a diaphanous caftan, strutted upon the beach, and immediately found housing and entertainment during his stay because he was picked up by a member of one of America's most wealthy and prominent families.  I have chosen not to mention the name.  Then he had the ride home with the two straight guys to enjoy.

No one could mistake Peter as being anything other than gay, but he had no interest in drag.  Some of his friends; however, thought that he was too pretty not to try it, at least on one occasion.  They decided to dress Peter up for a big party that would have lots of straight guys there with their dates.  At first, he resisted, but eventually he agreed to do it.  As it turned out, his appearance was so stunning that a lot of the guys abandoned their dates, went over to Peter, and were trying to chat him up. Their abandoned dates were furious. Peter was so convincing that they never discovered that he was a guy in drag.  He could be flamboyant, but he did not care for drag. He never did that again.

On a few occasions, I paled around with Peter, but we never did anything particularly gay or titillating.  We took a hike around the state park, went to see the film “Death in Venice” together, and sometimes just hung out talking.  Even though I admired his good looks, I never asked to go to bed with Peter.  I liked him just for who he was.  He wondered why I had not asked.  I replied that, apparently, everyone else continually asked him, and my asking him simply would place my friendship on their same level.  My friendship could be misinterpreted, implying that having sex was all that I really was interested in.  That impressed him, for when he graduated and left college, he gave me some gifts including three photos of himself.  The color one is included with this story.  I have one very large, glass-framed composite-portrait in silver that was part of his final commercial-art portfolio.  He wrote on the back of the picture, “Love ya always, Peter.”

The last time that I talked with Peter, he expressed, for the first time that I observed, some loss of confidence.  Here he had graduated and was going out into the real world.  He was afraid of how people would treat him, his being so obviously gay.  He imagined that he might have to limit himself to living on the East Coast or West Coast where there might be a greater percentage of tolerant people.  I hope that he chose well.

I often have wondered what became of Peter.  Out of curiosity, I did a couple of searches on the web.  All that I found were listings for several people with the same name, but none appeared to be “The Peter.”  Perhaps it is it is just as well that I do not have a current photo of him.  We all have aged, and even he was not immortal.  I'll just remember him as he was, the golden, cheerful, charismatic Peter.  And just maybe, he might discover our blog and read this story.                                     

© 04 April 2014 


About the Author 

I have had a life-long fascination with people and their life stories.  I also realize that, although my own life has not brought me particular fame or fortune, I too have had some noteworthy experiences and, at times, unusual ones.  Since I joined this Story Time group, I have derived pleasure and satisfaction participating in the group.  I do put some thought and effort into my stories, and I hope that you find them interesting.

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