The
following is an imaginary letter. My
mother died when I was barely an adult.
My father died in 1979. I came
out in 1982. I imagine my parents would
have been disappointed that their oldest daughter was homosexual, but I am
quite sure that eventually they would have been accepting. Although I see my mother as being very
closeted. They were very loving
parents. Here is an imagined reply to my
news from my father.
1982
0r so
Dear
Bets,
I
have to say I was stunned by your recent pronouncement. I don’t know much about this subject. I have been thinking about it night and
day. I am struggling. Maybe you can help me to understand. You and your family--your life was so
perfect. Perhaps Bill has not been the good husband that he
appeared to be. When you told me you
were getting a divorce, I didn’t understand that either. Now at least that piece of the puzzle fits.
I
say I have been struggling. I have to
tell you I do not like this choice that you have made. However, deep down inside I realize this must
be your true nature and you choose to live honestly and freely. And I know that is how you need to live and
that is who you are. I know for sure
that your life will not be easy. Surely
you are aware of that. I can only
conclude that you were compelled to make this change in your life style.
In
my struggle to understand and accept your situation one thing keeps coming back
to me. And that is that I love you. I wish you strength and happiness in your new
life. If nothing else, remember that I
love you very much no matter what.
Love, Dad
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