Friday, April 3, 2015

First Encounters of a Pornographic Kind by Betsy


As with any subject in the world, the internet has everything and nothing to say about pornography, I discovered as I was searching for some statistical information.   I can say “nothing” because of constantly encountering the statement that statistics on porn change daily and are basically meaningless because the numbers are impossible to gather.

 However, while reading through a particular page of information a few statements  got my attention; notably, every second that ticks by over $3,000 is spent on pornography.  Mind boggling!  And this: the porn industry as a whole in one year takes in larger revenues than Microsoft, Google, Amazon, e-bay, Yahoo, Apple and Netflix combined.  Even more mind-boggling!

Consumption of pornography as an addiction is very prevalent, I learned. But, then, that keeps the industry flourishing--even in hard times.  After reading on a bit further, I still really had next to nothing to write about pornography.

“I know, I’ll look up information on porn history,” I said to myself.

Upon turning to a page on that subject, my eyes could not help but be drawn to  an ancient picture depicting a “Priapus figure from Pompeii.”  The poor guy was shown standing there with a frontal encumbrance which would be enough to weigh down the strongest of men.  What “jumped out at me” so to speak is the caption below the picture: In ancient Rome large phali were considered undesirable for men to possess, it said, and often were depicted as such for comic effect.  Really!!  Undesirable!  I don’t believe it for a minute.   But then, what do I know? 

And then there is our Puritan culture.  Which reminds me of my loving Great Aunt Anne.   She was an adorable woman.  As I watched her age she became smaller and smaller until in her 80’s she definitely qualified as a “little old lady.”  This of course made her even more adorable.  She and my Uncle occasionally took road trips to visit various family members.  They would stay in small motels when their journey required an overnight stay.  They were tight-fisted and they always looked for the small town, family owned motel off the beaten path. This was in the 1960’s when such places existed.

On one of her visits to my house she seemed slightly off center, not really upset, but not quite herself.  Something was on her mind.  So I asked her about herself.  Was she sure she was all right?  With a very embarrassed look about her and turning her head to check who else might hear what she was about to say, she revealed that the night before in their motel room, she had had her first encounter with pornography.  She inadvertently had discovered under their bed piles of magazines--probably 50 magazines.  Being curious to read one of them, she described herself picking one up, opening it, and immediately releasing it to the floor and kicking it back to its place under the bed.  Inside, whispered Aunt Anne, were pictures depicting “oh the worst pornography you can imagine.  Pictures leaving nothing to the imagination, scenes--well, I could not even look at the pictures!” 

 Although this story took place a very long time ago, my vision of this little old lady and her first encounter with pornography will stick in my mind forever.  And truly to this day when the subject of pornography comes up my Aunt Anne is the first thing that comes to mind.


© October 2011 

About the Author  

Betsy has been active in the GLBT community including PFLAG, the Denver women’s chorus, OLOC (Old Lesbians Organizing for Change).  She has been retired from the Human Services field for about 15 years.  Since her retirement, her major activities include tennis, camping, traveling, teaching skiing as a volunteer instructor with National Sports Center for the Disabled, and learning.  Betsy came out as a lesbian after 25 years of marriage. She has a close relationship with her three children and enjoys spending time with her four grandchildren.  Betsy says her greatest and most meaningful enjoyment comes from sharing her life with her partner of 25 years, Gillian Edwards.

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